The Recovery Guy Podcast

Episode #53 - Thursday The Checkup: Sabotage of Self

Sabotage of self is one of the most unnecessary yet common problems of people in recovery. We expect people who are on a destructive path to continue to sabotage their progress. They are already on a path and negative destruction and sabotage seems to be a part of their daily process. But what about those of us who are in recovery? What about those of us who are on a path to wellness and becoming whole. Why do we act as if we are the enemy as we are trying to be part of the solution. This podcast discusses just that. Please let me know what you think. Your contribution through your comments carries great value to me. I hope you can remove yourself from the sabotage yourself and get on a program that is consistent with the desire you have for your life. I wish you well.

Episode #226 Tuesday the Fix; Amends Is More Than Sorry

One of the things built into healthy relationships is making amends. This is universal and something that everyone should keep in mind as we explore a healthy balance in our relationships. If this is true for the average person, how much more is it true for the person who has struggled with addiction and or behavioral challenges.

Episode #52 - Tuesday The Fix: Pursuit of Happiness

Today’s podcast is all about making the pursuit of happiness our number one priority. This is not to look for isolated incidents that would give us temporary happiness, but rather a way of living that promotes happiness from the inside out. It is not that anything is wrong with isolated moments of happiness but we cannot let the external be predominant over the Internet. We must make an active decision on a daily to renew the happiness we strive to maintain. 

Episode #51 - Thursday The Checkup: Give Yourself Time to Grow

This podcast explores how giving our self time to grow is the most fair thing we can do. It does not mean that we are lazy and we expect things to happen through osmosis. It just means that we are learning to be patient and not getting too far ahead of ourselves. Certain things in life can be accomplished easily and without much effort. Personal recovery is one of those things. We did not get sick overnight nor do well overnight. 

Just as the Chinese bamboo tree takes five years before it breaks ground and grows we need time as well.

Episode #50 - Tuesday The Fix: Recovery After Coercion

Recovery after coercion is a concept that explores why people come into recovery and why they would ultimately stay. Coercion is a manipulation through arm twisting, duress, external pressure and threats of loss. Everyone I have ever met has come to recovery as a result of coercion. The ones that I have come to know as sticking around were ones that were able to translate for transition from coercion to the plan of recovery. Without this transition people will go backward once that coercion is removed. The people who remain and recover are those who can see that it’s not about getting back things it’s becoming a new person. 

Episode #49 - Thursday The Checkup: Relapse

Relapse can be one of the most devastating things to occur in a persons life. In many cases it is worse than the original addiction or behavioral challenge in the first place. What makes Relapse so damaging is that it is not only going back to a normal behavior but one more time it is admitting defeat after a period of success. In this podcast we discuss relapse from the inside out. I first define what relapse is and how it takes hold.  I look at the reasons why many people do relapse, the statistics of relapse and then I cover steps to help ensure against relapse.

Episode #48 - Tuesday The Fix: Letting Go

In this podcast, Robert explores the ins and outs of Letting Go and why it is essential to our overall wellness. Letting Go is a necessary step in becoming well and recovery. If we don’t learn to let go we will remain in bondage to areas that prevent us from moving forward. We will forever be stunted in our recovery or we will not have any at all. In the beginning, we let go because holding on has become far too painful. As we become more well we let go because of what we are moving to, not what we are moving from. As Gandhi stated “life is one indivisible whole”. Living in pain and pleasure, joy and despair, or hope and disappointment is only an illusion. Let’s learn to “Let Go and Let God”.

Episode #47 - Thursday The Checkup: ODAAT for the Rest of Your Life

This podcast looks at the importance of keeping everything relevant to the day. We also take a look at the courage to step out into tomorrow and to not be hung up on today. So often we are afraid to look at tomorrow because it’s too far out ahead of where our mind can go. That should be the rule and really the exception in recovery. Once we get past the initial recovery we should be able to move through and beginning the life of a person who is not afraid to plan while maintaining their position. The program of recovery is a program that is to be lived one day at a time for the rest of our lives. I hope you see it that way, but if not please reach out to me that I might be assistance.

Episode #46 - Monday The Fix: None of my Business

Have you ever heard the Phrase “your opinion of me is none of my business“. As people new to Recovery, we are a people who were always trying to measure up to others.  We spent our time worrying about their opinion and we try to own it as if it was our opinion.

For various reasons, we felt their acceptance was based on what we did not who we were. Because we had such a low self-esteem we never thought people would care for us because of who we were.

This type of thinking created an even greater lack of self-esteem because we believed no matter what we did we would never meet their expectations.

So much of personal recovery is based on understanding our value because of who we are not what we do.

As we learn more about ourselves we learned that our personal value is greater than anything we could ever do as we learn more about ourselves we learn that our personal value is greater than anything we could ever do. 

This podcast addresses just that and we are given six steps in learning how to overcome that personal viewpoint that others may have of us.

We cannot spend our time worrying about other peoples opinions because we can never please everyone all the time.

I hope you find this approach to your wellness as a help in understanding that other peoples opinion of us is really none of our business.

The only thing we can really own is our personal view of ourselves and the behavior that is based upon that. 

Episode #45 -Thursday The Checkup: Three agents of change

Welcome to the Recovery Guy Podcast of Thursday’s Check Up. In this episode we look at and discuss what I call “Three Agents Of Change”. 

Each one of these agents works independently of one another yet or necessary to be combined as the foundation that we would build a recovery from. We look at the need to understand our lack of power. We then need to understand how that lack of power has led to our unmanageability. Finally, we must admit that something needs to be done for our life to move forward to our goal of recovery.